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Parents were fed up with a 7-year-old’s complaints when giving presents

Dear Amy: We recently celebrated Easter with our families.

My husband and I have a precocious seven-year-old daughter who we enjoy very much. But any holiday or occasion that involves treats or gifts seems to bring out the worst in her.

She tears through her gifts or treats and immediately starts complaining that there isn’t more.

I’m really sick of this. I’m thinking of putting a stop to the glut by essentially not participating at all in “intermediate” occasions like Valentine’s Day and Easter, and really cutting back at Christmas, but I’m not sure if that’s the right response .

My husband and I have agreed to have you weighed.

– Give mother

Dear Mother: First of all, Easter is not an in-between time for many people around the world, but an important religious holiday, and I think that a sensible, calm education about what these holidays should be celebrated might be helpful and interesting for your daughter.

Canceling a gift vacation several months in advance won’t mean much to a child your daughter’s age; it is best to respond at the moment to behavior that you do not like.

For example, if you presented an Easter basket full of goodies and your daughter tore through it (normal behavior for a child her age) and immediately started complaining that there weren’t more, you and your husband should express your own disappointment in a calm manner . and decisive.

“Wow, you seem very unhappy. You’ve got a lot of goodies there, and if you don’t enjoy them, we’ll take them away until you can figure out how to enjoy the things right in front of you.

Seven-year-olds are impulsive; that is a characteristic that makes children of this age a lot of fun to be around. The downside to this is that they are still learning how to modulate their behavior.

Immediately after disciplining your daughter, once she has calmed down, ask her if she understands how her behavior led to the consequence.

At Easter you can also move from giving a basket full of sweets, treats and trinkets to coloring and hunting for eggs and jellybeans, and giving flower seeds, small pots and soil to create a window garden.

I agree to make significant cuts.

Before each holiday, read the associated stories, work on a craft project related to it, and review the guidelines for receiving gifts or treats, enjoying what you receive, and expressing joy and gratitude.

Dear Amy: You asked a question from “The Enforcer” about a bridesmaid’s brother who tried to use his sister’s online RSVP to show up uninvited to a wedding after the sister said she couldn’t attend.

Why should this matter? It’s not like he would increase the numbers.

– Angry

Dear Upset: This isn’t about numbers. The bridal couple must decide who exactly their wedding guests are.

Otherwise we could all be running around at wedding receptions.

You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, PO Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068.